I Love You
We don’t say it enough. The truth is, we have one shot at this life thing, and if that doesn’t work out, then what? Time is too precious a gift to let pass by without saying three simple words.
Who do you love? Are there people in your life who you love but haven’t let them know? I can’t even count the number of people who come to mind when I begin to think about those in my life who’ve never heard me say to them those 3 words: I love you.
Is This Valentine’s Day?
I don’t know about you, but I’m no more a fan of “Single’s Awareness Day” as I am the lovey-dovey Valentine’s Day traditions. Why? Because I don’t feel like our culture should dictate when we show affection for each other as lovers, of intentionally create a shaming for those who may not be in a relationship. It’s difficult to not incur some sort of snide remark when you admit to being single and unattached on V-Day. Is this what the holiday has become? Is this Valentine’s Day, the great culture shaming for non-married individuals? Just a day for FarmersOnly.Com and Christian Mingle to trump up some sales from dejected singles?
It’s Like Magic!
I posted a few weeks ago about the 5 love languages and how they speak differently to different ones of us. But hearing someone say, “I love you”, is a universal thing. There are no specific criteria for when to say it or how, that part is left up to you; but everyone deserves, (some even need), to hear it.
What is it about these 3 words that have so infatuated the human race? Some people are consumed with the confirmation of another’s love; others depend on those words to believe the feelings behind them are true; some live their whole lives in search of the perfect person to say those words to. But we waste time.
The Day of Love
Valentine’s Day is not just a day to celebrate heterosexual, boy-girl, romantic, hallmark channel love: okay, never mind. I just looked it up and that literally is what it’s about. There goes that bullet point!
But really, even if it’s not about just showing love to everyone significant in your life, why can’t we make it that? Valentine’s Day is about honoring, appreciating, and enjoying one of God’s greatest gifts: love. And we honor it by first, returning it back to Him in praise and adoration, and then also by sharing it with others. Starting today, let us all revolt against cultural precedent and expectations and share the love God has given us with everyone; starting with the one’s closest to us: like Christmas in February!
Yes, I’m Single
I’m sure I will develop a different appreciation for the holiday when I have a girl, (who’s not my sister), to share it with. But seeing as how that has not yet happened, I don’t want to waste my time, year after year, waiting for that day. The human capacity for love is greater than a single day in the year. God’s love is with us every second. Every waking moment and even when we’re asleep we are surrounded by the love of our God.
So, what would it take for me to tell someone I love them? The courage of being honest; I have to be open about my feelings and made vulnerable to whatever comes next. It’s a risk, even to say those words to your closest family members and dearest friends. But the risk is no match for the reward: the joy and fulfillment of that love being accepted and even reciprocated.
As always, thanks for reading, and never be afraid to say “I love you”.
—the anonymous novelist